Difference of Independence

Indian younger generation strongly feel they don't have much independence.
They are eager to be Western people for a independence part (not whole things)

young indian colleague and me discuss several topics lately..
One day he told me,
"we are not having that much independence like you japanese or western people are having.."
"parents disturb me, force me to do whatever they want me to do.."
"what they couldn't do that, they want me to do. if father wanted to be a business man, he force me to study to be a business man"
"we won't choose anything.."

he spoke out from deeper his mind.
seriously he said to me,
"we won't choose a wife. you can but we can't.."
"career, major course in a college, wife, job..."

but he told their advantage with smile,

"but if we get depressed, everybody surrounding him encourage him.
that's the only our advantage.."

then he was laughing.. actually..

After i heard his speech, i response,
"you are right, understand your situation, enough independence sounds good.
but one thing you should know,, it's a,, we also have to take a responsibility.
for example, we have to find out a future wife, have to choose our future plan, even if it fails
we can't complain we can't blame anybody.."

i also said seriously..
continued silence a minute, we look at some differently, i crossed my legs again and again..

then finished this topic.

we went to discuss the ordinary matter regarding with project, holiday's plan,food or else..

we can also say independence means freedom..

what do you think, we have freedom for our life but everything comes for us as a responsibility.
or
we have less freedom, but parents or other relation or teacher or friends can decide our life..

I've ever thought deeply this topic. i just thought we have freedom it's a quite natural thing..
but it wasn't. in other countries people don't have freedom like us..

if you come to see indian life, you can guess they live with happiness and cooperation spirit..
they sleep with them(not alone), they go to eat with them(not alone), they play with them(not alone).
they share all of things(don't posses individually)..

huuu..